I don't know exactly what I was expecting.....but this first visit with my surgical oncologist was just....different. then what was in my head...
First lesson learned....don't google your doctor name or go to "rate for your doctor" online thingies!!! I know a common sense person would know this ....I missed that particular memo. I dont' trust much of what is on the web so it didn't make me panic but it did leave me wondering a smidege.They gave him an awful rating for "personality and ability to relate/communicate with patient, rushing thru appointments, not answering questions".... just to name the main thing..."Great"!!! WELL....he didn't fit into any of those worrisome categories....He was awesome!!! Just exactly the doctor I can work/smile/learn and journey with. This is gonna be good.
Second lesson.....they don't give you a whole whack of info about you (your personal case) in more then little snippets. They only know what is discovered with each test and procedure and that I what they comment on with the "possible" next step "depending on what pathology finds. I totally thought that would drive the "I need the big picture with all the possible out comes so I am ready" but not at all. He gave me the suspected plan of attack based on his impressions, barring some huge changes found in my MRI.
SOOOOO....what that means is we will know more by Friday and that (at this point) a lumpectomy will be the first step. He will go in and take the lump and surrounding tissue and a test spot of lymph node....do more pathology on that to rule out any spread...then either hormone therapy or radiation...no chemo so far!! (happy dancing) and I feel the same calm and peace I have always hard thru this.....WOW!!!
Third lesson... I know, now that I am armed with new info it is time to tell some dear friends that I love about this cancer. I have been waiting until I had all the info but now that I know you Never have All the Info....I needed to tell them personally before they heard from someone else or saw thru some social media. It really is an "out of left field" kind of odd call to make. They had great reactions... (shock first but... reactions were great. Their offers of love and "whatever I need" were overwhelming to me....they are all "family to me" and to feel the love and all their arms linked buildng athis protective wall around me was truly humbling. I am so blessed!!!